Not So Frequently Asked Questions...

• Why do women think it's status to be "Bottom Bitch" when all it really means is you can be topped?
• Why do most men think that all it takes is penetration?
• Why do most women give them permission to do so by continuously allowing them entry?
• Why haven't any of us created an application yet...complete with a request for references?
• Why is it taking so long for women to raise their standards? Is it because they are too busy trying to get a "ring put on it?"
• Why do people "follow" a blog when they never really "follow the blog?"
• Why do some people even bother to have a blog when what they have to say is better left unsaid?

"I'm just sayin'...................."

I Just Had to Say...

To have your man look at you with so much pride and love in his eyes, is priceless! It sends something through my heart - the hopeless romantic, that I am.

I almost turned the channel while watching the Grammy's because I don't do too well with the award shows. Opening act...Lady Ga Ga. I am not a fan. My purpose for watching in the first place was because I wanted to see Beyonce do her thing. I know that people feel like she is excessive right now and busy trying to outdo herself every chance she gets. But I can't lie, she's a BAD ONE! I'm on her team and wishing her FULL success.  She is at the top of her game and if at all possible, I don't like to miss a performance by her. There is nobody effin with her right now...except Sasha Fierce, that is. 

She is in her element and is a living reminder of what happens when you love what you do...when you are happy with what you do...when it doesn't feel like work because you love it so much.  A friend of mine says that "Beyonce is a way of life".  Nicely put.

So, since I knew that she was going to be on after her "Put a Ring on it" won for best song, I left the channel there. Then she came out to perform "If I Were A Boy" and Killlltttt it!  Love that girl.  She doesn't disappoint.  As into it as I was, however, my highlight was after the performance, when she got her standing ovation and in the front row, smiling from ear to ear, with so much pride and love in his eyes, was her husband.  Jay-Z - another powerful performer.  I LOVED IT!!!  Every girl - and boy, for that matter, should be so lucky...

And now I can turn the channel.

"Go Team!"

I wonder if athletes ever realize how lucky they are to have cheerleaders to cheer for them during their attempts at victory. If they aren't they should be. See, because a cheerleader is still on the team - even when their team is facing defeat. They are still out there with their pompoms giving their all, dancing, the whole Nine.  They don't see defeat, they are in a constant state of triumph. It's amazing to see. Even when it's clear that the team is losing, the cheerleaders are still there engaging the crowd to show their dedication to their team. That's support. That's love. That's belief. That's uplifting. That makes you believe you can do anything, even when the odds appear against you.

I am not an athlete, but I do have cheerleaders on my team. Though I wonder if the athletes appreciate their cheering squad, I do - and I have a few.  I am so thankful for them because when I thought this would never come to be, she always kept me going and kept me believing that even during the darkest moments, when people were bullshitting with my dream, it would still come to fruition.


When I left my job because I felt that my talents were being overlooked, that my intelligence was being insulted, and that it was clear that place wasn't the place for me, it was my mother that told me "baby, fuck 'em if they don't see who you are and what you are capable of, they don't deserve you". That meant so much because it told me that my mother felt I was better than compromising myself for something that was not worthy of me.

My little man...every time the project met with resistance, he would find opportune times to say "Mommy, I told my teacher that she should have you come in and talk about your magazine when you get ready to launch it".

And then there's Twan.  He tells me "Baby, just tell me what to do to make things easier for you and I will do it.  Just don't give up because there are a lot of girls waiting for you".  Then he goes to work at night from 10-7, comes back and takes my son to school - this after he sets up my laptop for me to begin working on Babygirlz. It's only after I'm all squared away that he catches up on sleep.

I don't know what I would do without my cheering squad...but I don't want to find out either. Even when I feel/felt like things are/were working against me, THEY are/were right there with all the right things to say, showing their FULL support, and keeping me in a motivated state of mind.

I am so thankful for their presence in my life.